How I learned to deal with my own self-doubt and make the best out of it

How I learned to deal with my own self-doubt and make the best out of it

Self-doubt is a social disease that is experienced by everyone because the biggest battle on earth is the battle between the mind and the heart. Sometimes the heart is full of doubt while the brain is strong in faith and vice versa. 

The best way to deal with self-doubt is to face it. Take life by the horns. A collection of experiences will definitely help to reduce self-doubt because the knowledge that we get from the experiences will help with the self-preparation. For example, if you are not sure whether you can be a good writer even though you have the talent, just join any writing websites or competitions. Listen to the ones who criticize your essays as their factual responses will help you to understand where you stand as a writer especially your ranking in the cyber world. If you doubt yourself when you want you pursue your career as a chef, just try any recipes that you can download from the internet especially YouTube.  When you have tried the recipes, choose your audience carefully especially the ones who are good at cooking. They will tell you honestly about how far you can go if you were to be a chef. Getting used to their criticism will help you to face the real world especially your potential customers who could be the meanest person on earth due their level of perfectionism as you shall not undermine the complexity of a person’s taste buds.  

Another way to deal with self-doubt is get rid of naysayers. There are two types of negative people. The first one is meant to help you no matter how bitter the truth is in what they say while the second one is meant to drag you down. You shall keep a distance away from the second one as they are the ones who are governed by self-doubt and your success is their worst nightmare. You shall not be too hard on yourself when you have decided to get rid of the negative naysayers as they could take you miles away from your dreams as words can either build or destroy us.

Having a long meaningful conversation with your good friends or the ones that you can trust is also an effective way to reduce self-doubt. Talk about what you want to achieve in life and share the hurdles that you are experiencing. Perhaps they have something valuable to say that you might not have thought of before. The best thing about this kind of conversation is you are free to express yourself in your own unique ways. You will not be scared to be yourself throughout the conversation. In addition to that, that conversation feels like you are at home. The presence of threat is absence.

Reading books which are related to your self-doubt is compulsory if you are committed to reduce your self-doubt. Books such as Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins and 7 Habits of Highly Successful People by Stephen Covey shall be made your permanent companion. These books will help you to see the real power you have been keeping inside and how you can develop that power to turn you into a new you. Another book that you should read is Chicken Soup for The Souls. This book is great because it helps you to do a long self-reflection about your own self-doubt because this book offers a collection of real life experiences which could make you think and reflect on many things.

The last one is prayer. Whether you believe in God or otherwise, there are so many things in this world which remain a mystery in which there must be a superpower that has been governing this universe. Even death is not a full stop. Even our knowledge about afterlife is limited. Prayer may change the whole thing overnight but the soul needs divine intervention because only the unseen can really understand the depth of your self-doubt. (662 words)

Originally written by Mr. Mani Jack