How
to balance and compromise your own principles in a relationship
Ego is the main culprit in any failures of
relationship. Sadly, ego is human nature. It is a part of us. We cannot delete
it as it is biologically there. However, we can reduce it if the love for that
relationship outweigh our personal ego.
Relationship is about two different souls who are
attracted to each other. Some may look physically compatible, but there is no
chemistry between them. Sometimes, even if the chemistry is there, if the
amount of ego is excessive, that relationship will also fail.
When a man decides to have a serious relationship with
a woman or when a woman decides to be committed into a serious relationship,
they can’t avoid the collision of principles. Each of them comes from a
different family background. Each family has cultivated or embedded a different
set of principles which create tension between a man and a woman when they take
their relationship to a another level. Therefore, if both of them refuse to
compromise on their principles, that relationship will be short-lived because
it takes years to build those principles in a person.
Let me share a few principles which could threaten a
relationship. Let say this man has a few of good friends that he loves to hang
out every weekend. These friends are very important to him perhaps they have
helped him a lot in the past. When this man gets into a serious relationship
with a woman, he insists that he will preserve his friendship and will continue
to spend time with his friends every weekend. This belief may make the woman
thinks that she is not important. If she feels unwanted, she may want to say
goodbye early to this man. Therefore, a compromise should be held between this man
and his woman. They should have a thorough discussion about this collision of
priorities. In this case, the man must explain why he treasures his friends so
much and how they have shaped him into a successful man today. His woman must
also acknowledge the man’s need to appreciate his friend’s good deeds.
Regarding the weekly gatherings, they can kill two birds with one stone. They
can also hang out as usual as they have 24 hours a day. A win-win deal must be
achieved at the end of the emotional deliberation. Most importantly, that man
must not make his woman feel that she is not important in his life.
Another principle that could jeopardise a relationship
is no one shall bring problems at workplace home. Perhaps the woman does not
like it when his man brings any issues at workplace home. This principle may
challenge the man’s ego as he may believe that his loved one must know what
happens at the office. Conflicts arise when the man assumes that his woman is
not interested to know about the challenges that he faces at the office. In
this case, perhaps, the man must learn to cool down himself before he reaches
home. Maybe the woman may feel uncomfortable when his man comes home with anger
and frustration. Anger and frustration may cause the man to say certain things
that he should have never said and perhaps these two negative elements may
cause the woman to feel emotionally unsafe at home. Therefore, that man needs
to find a place to reorganize his fiery thoughts due to too much pressure at
the office before he comes home so that he can share anything that bothers his
mind in a manner that does not hurt the feelings of his woman.
No one can avoid conflicts in a relationship because
it is a normal process between two different souls who are trying hard to get
along well with each other. Conflicts are meant to make us more mature.
However, the ending of a conflict depends heavily on each party’s willingness
to reduce their ego because the love for our partner shall always be more
important than our selfish and destructive ego. (673 words)
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